This year I've witnessed the year of the Hater. Justified hate... like hating the people who catch whales, or hating the people who traffic people on boats to Australia. I've seen haters immigrate to a country then hate the country they immigrated to so badly they blew it up. I've seen hate take on a whole new "antidote to life" position and I wonder if we can do much about it.
Certainly the Dalai Lama's philosophy in Tibet of non violent protest didn't achieve its end.. the poor Tibetan people are all but extinct in their own land, driven to poverty and forced to speak in any tongue othe than their own. Non violent protest doesn't stand a chance against the hypocrisy of communist rule.
But hate might have a place. I mean, the world is changing, and political correctness forced on us by extreme minority groups has made really thinking outside the pack a rather treacherous endeavour. I remember in a seminar calling a bulbous lady fat... and being condemned for it. Cripes, she is fat, get over it and deal with it. Maybe, at least knowing what we hate is more authentic than walking around pretending we're all spiritual in denial.
One lady made me laugh till I cried.. in a seminar I ran this year (2011) on inspiration and mind control she said "I hate hate.." and thought nothing of it. It's the same as fighting for peace.
Here's a spectacular article on this http://www.npr.org/2011/12/30/144384533/haters-are-going-to-hate-this-story?sc=fb&cc=fp
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Year end is a time for dreaming. Bucket lists are drawn up and many people will create their bucket lists for the following year. New Year's resolutions will be made and broken soon after and the world will rush forward into the next year. Life rushes on faster and faster.
So, Vision Quests and Dream making hit's an all time high as people become aware of the cost of wasted time. More and more companies are recognising the importance of individual vision quests, and the key to getting these right is to separate dreams from fantasy.
Jenny wrote her dreams down with passion and enthusiasm. She wanted more friends, greater happiness, a bigger house, a holiday in Numea and less work hours. Her list was, apart from the smaller details, identical to every other woman in her age group.
But was it a vision or a fantasy quest?
40% of Marriages last.
Therefore, 60% of marriages fail.
Of those 60% - 100% said theirs would not be the marriage to fail.
Marriage failure is not something we plan for when we marry but we can prevent quite easily.
Marriage survival decreases with time. The odds of a marriage lasting longer than 5 years are 70%, 10 years are 50% and 13 years, less than 40%.
What does time have to do with love and relationship? Well, during that time one or both parties in a relationship will lose or achieve their vision... and here starts the problem. No vision, no relationship.
When our expectations are not met by the realities of life, we need some quick remedy. Rather than hit the bottle or pretend it doesn't matter, we're best to undertake some mind massage. That was at least, you get back to your Innerwealth, fast.
What blocks energy is blocked love. What blocks love the most is usually anger. What causes anger is usually disappointment. Ok, so we know where the cause is usually found: expectation.
Expectations create anticipations, anticipations create expectations, expectations can be met ... equals happy, or expectations can be not met, equals unhappy. Unhappy usually means disappointment, disappointment usually means anger and anger blocks love.
No use working on blocked love. Best work on the expectations. If we expect what we get, then there's nothing to be disappointed about. Lets see how:
New Year .... TIme for New VIP ... Do your bucket lists for 2012 and include the seven areas of life: spiritual, mental, physical, social, relationship (family), career, financial. As important as a New Year's Party .. at least.
Your Innerwealth does not generate or respond well to weak leadership and yet, there is a lot of it around.
Governments are often run by people who have significant development of their Innerwealth, but are hamstrung by a democratic system that almost guarantees, minority governance and therefore weak leadership. The USA, UK, Australia, Italy, Greece, Spain and France to name a few governments in or close to, this situation.
I think weak leadership is here to stay... the question is how you, as a person committed to staying inspired in your day, are going to respond to it.
Some bastard is always going to want to poop on your day... She'll be an ex or he'll be a lawyer or a parking attendant or the tax department. Some bastard is going to pollute the sea or hurt a friend or sometimes that bastard is me.
Some bastard is always going to tell you you're an idiot for living Innerwealth and that you're better to go to Church on Sunday and I'd agree because there's more single people looking for sex partners in Church groups, if that's what yr willing to live with for the rest of your living days.
What does your Inner World Look Life? Would anybody love to live there?
Think about this.... "If you are trying to be happy, you are not already happy. Because if you were happy, there's be no need to be trying"
Unhappy on the inside.. people gather in groups. They are called therapy sessions, self help book shops, Oprah and more. It's nice that people are supported when they are not happy on the inside. However, that unhappiness on the inside can became a habit. Your Innerwealth cannot thrive in an unhappy inner world. So, maybe it's time for a different model of what it feels like to be happy on the inside. Here are just a few of the mysteries that help you tap the magic of Innerwealth... Maybe this year, it's your time to shine....
Top Five Regrets of the Dying
By Bronnie Ware
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
Build the outside from the inside by creating an inner world other people would love to live in.
LET NATURE BE YOUR GUIDE
When you live and work as Nature intended, you get what nature intended: Inspiration
ORGANISE, SUPERVISE, DEPUTISE
Ask, how can I work 20 hours a week and make more money? The answer is in the quality of your down time.
VIP - VISION, INSPIRATION, PURPOSE
Vision of the future clear, Inspiration in the moment turn up, Purpose greater than self
BALANCED, CENTRED, CALM
Three keys to personal presence, self worth, attracting opportunity.
Expectations block love and energy. Real Expectations build love and energy. Nature's Laws
GRATITUDE, PRESENCE, CERTAINTY and LOVE
Four pillars of Innerwealth - higher thinking - less stress - better life.
WORK LIFE BALANCE MYTH BUSTER
No more domestic sabotage through work life balance. The assets that make business success are the exact assets that'll kill a personal relationship. Differentiate head-space.
BEER FOR BREAKFAST
Don't get caught in fancy morning practices you can't sustain throughout the day. Instead fill your glass each morning to overflowing then give the excess away without expectation. This is the key to thinking big, being abundant, great leadership, loving relationship.
BREAK THE BLAME GAME
Blaming somebody for your misery, discomfort, lifestyle, mind state or lack of innerwealth (and therefore outer wealth) leads to depression, self sabotage, bitterness, illness, suicidal children, loneliness and medication. Try saying "I caused it .. therefore I can change it" it's a much more empowered innerwealth space.
Happiness is over rated. It's always temporary, makes us want short term fixes, causes addictions and self obsession. Instead go for Contentment ... try this Innerwealth statement "I need nothing, want nothing and therefore I have everything" it works in the REAL world.
I wouldn't like to live in some people's inner world, even if their outer world looks attractive.
That's what I ask when I meet someone, "How's your inner world?"
Most lie, or don't know... because their stress and worry and negativity is such a habit, they've kinda got used to it.
But if I rub shoulders with someone whose inner world is dark and negative, they're never happy until mine is too.
So, I think it's one of the hardest things to do in life, and that is to cut people the space to have whatever inner world they choose without surrendering the beauty of mine. Here's a few ideas about how I do it...