The Back on Track 30 day Challenge is probably one of the world's more intense personal development programmes. It is designed specifically for those who want to use their life to make a global impact, global change, rather than self absorbed indulgence.
In Back on Track, if it doesn't result in a better world, improved environment or greater compassion for those in need, it isn't worth doing.
Our world has become too self absorbed. We read books, listen to tapes and follow guru's who advise us to be self aware when the real end to true self actualisation is to consider others.
Just for today, before you act, choose your bread or do your work, ask: will this thought, word or action result in a better world, better environment or greater compassion for those in need? if not, don't do it.
Sometimes the road gets bumpy. It's surprising how little it can take to get us off track or out of balance. It's a tight rope and for the most part we do great at dealing with the wobbles that happen.
But every now and then life can throw us a curved ball and put us on the back foot and cause us to revert to patterns of response that are unhealthy.
Here are a few things to be mindful about during those ugly times:
1. Nobody does to you more than you do to yourself. If someone puts you down or is critical they've done you a favour by doing on the outside what you are doing on the inside. Don't run and blame. Instead thank and grow (grow means to dig in a work out why you are doing on the inside what somebody is doing to you on the outside) - don't run, evolve.
2. Ugly things don't signal you are on the wrong track - often they mean you are on the right track but you are growing through a self set limitation. So, again, don't blame and run, stop, evolve and grow.
3. Time and space - have you noticed that the further you get away from a problem the closer you get to a solution. The more instantaneous your choices, the more likely it is that you are acting habitually and potentially in a repeat cycle. So, avoid making big decisions when you are in reaction, blame or anger mode, because the likelihood is, you are not thinking in a healthy way, long term.
4. Watch your diet. During ugly times and when we are in repeat cycles of stress or reaction, we revert to food and substances as a mechanism for self medication, whether it is good diet or bad a sudden over emphasis on food - too much or too little can be a big sign that we are in reaction ( includes alcohol and coffee). Such signals are warnings that our choices are not coming from a good place.
5. Go back to purpose - the difference between living from ego reaction and living from your true self, your heart, is the amount of emphasis you place on feelings. It's hard but feelings are driven by ego and ego will make decisions based on pieces of incomplete data. Do you know your purpose? How does this ugly period like back to your purpose - Do you know your values? How does this ugly period demonstrate that you are not living according to your true values? Remember, nature destroys anything that is not fulfilling its purpose so the ugly time might just reveal that you were off not linking what you were doing to your purpose and values. This can be a great and positive way to approach any healing.
The Back on Track - 30 day challenge is a city retreat designed to work you through any ugly patch in your life, resolve it and teach you the process of getting Back on Track
quickly for the next time.
I love the way nature guides us, contraction is not an option.
Sometime we hook our purpose onto fixtures hoping to create something special. But nothing in nature is fixed.
Sometimes we invest in something that fails to live to our expectations but in nature our expectations cannot halt the evolution of our master plan - where there is conflict between our expectations and nature's destiny, expectations lose.
We sometimes think that we are off purpose but we are never off purpose always learning lessons, if we are thankful for that we don't always need to repeat the same lessons, bitten by the same dog twice isn't essential.
Sometimes we invest in possibilities that don't manifest. This is the heart of the visionary and he or she has to get ised to the fact that some dreams do not manifest as they were hoped. The visionary can see what others can't and therefore sometimes the visionary sees the future while others resist. In nature there is a vision and those who tune to it create with a good heartedness.
Stress reveals a conflict within. That stress is 99% intuition arguing with hopes and dreams. In nature, intuition is the whole art of survival. It is wise to hone this art of intuition and save yourself wasting time, effort and resources and getting stressed.
The Back on Track 30 Day Challenge focusses 100% on your intuitive natureteaching you the skills to trust it, and understand nature well enough to hone that intuition (inspiration is a higher form of intuition) into vision and purpose.
Five things you need to know about intuitive awareness:
1. Pragmatism kills it
2. Disobeying it leads to physical and mental health problems - grave illness.
3. Doubt and fear are the result of following intuition (fearless is not a good sign of intuition)
4. Emotion is not intuitive - gratitude shifts emotion in the right direction (elation and depression shift it in the wrong direction)
5. Love is the only true space where intuition can rise to inspiration
A love filled home. An open heart. An urgency for life. An obsession with freedom. The courage to sacrifice your self comfort for a bigger cause.
Start with this and you cannot fail.
I love this article from Joshi's clinic.
.. so I've reproduced it for you.
When you say you love somebody, there should a much greater motivation than simply those spoken words.
Try to be constant so that they will understand the core of your personality and from that understanding gain strength and security that you are acting as you. You may falter with your moods. You may project, at times, a strangeness that is alien to them which may bewilder or frighten them. There will be times when they question your motives. But because people are never constant and are as changeable as the seasons, you should try to build up within them a faith in your fundamental attitude and show that your inconsistency is only for the moment and not a lasting part of you. Show your love now. Each and every day, for each day is a lifetime. Every day we live, we learn more how to love. Do not defer your love nor neglect it, for if you wait until tomorrow, tomorrow never comes. It is like a cloud in the sky, passing by.
If you give kindness and understanding, then you will receive faith. If you give hate and dishonesty, you will receive distrust. If you give fear and are afraid, they will become afraid and fear you. You need give out what you need to receive.
The degree of love you give is determined by your own capability. My capability is determined by the environment of my past existence and my understanding of love, truth and God. My understanding is determined by my parents, friends, places I have lived and been. Each experience is fed into my mind from living.
Love is universal. Love is the movement of life. You can love a boy, a girl, your family, friends, art, nature. All things in life are beautiful. No human being or society has the right to condemn any kind of love you feel or your way of expressing it, especially if you are sincere; sincerity being the honest realization of yourself, without hurt or pain for your life, or any life your life touches.
Become a truly loving spirit. Let my words, if I must speak, become the restoration of your soul. But when speech is silent, don’t you still project the great depth of your sensitivity.
When you touch them, or kiss them, or hold them, you are saying a thousand words.
Original article here
The lovely Lorna Patten, founder of Open Up Communication shares with us a beautiful article on why we are not our emotions. I had never heard a message quite like Lorna’s. Her writing style is poetic and her tenderness will permeate your heart. My favorite teaching is to ‘let emotion move through you.’ Ninety seconds is all it has to take! Enjoy and leave your comments below.
You Are Not Your Feelings by Lorna Patten
No you are not.
And you are not your story or your suffering or your triumphs or your transformation…
You are not your ideas or your beliefs or your learnings or your failings or your mistakes or your successes…
And you certainly are not your feelings….
Who you are is the stuff of heaven, the magical, mystical, is-ness of the all of the all:
Who you are is LOVE…
Pure, simple, boundless, limitless, joyous, expansive, creative, powerful…LOVE
No matter what has happened, no matter how awful the particular stuff, no matter what you think or or feel and certainly no matter what others think or feel…
You are perfect love – you are.
And that can and will never change.
Hard to live in this polarizing reality because you have mostly forgotten who you are and have spent a lot of your life fearing and feeling you are a great deal less than perfect anything, let alone perfect love.
And the truth is that is how you have felt….and the truth also is…you are not your feelings…feelings are not facts and none of what you think and what you feel is WHO YOU ARE…none of it, nada nothing at all.
Let me say it again: Who you are is perfect LOVE.
What you feel often is anything but that. And you are not your feelings…you are the one who chooses to feel the way you feel. Jill Bolte-Taylor made the observation that emotion (energy-in-motion) takes 90 seconds to complete it’s journey though you and be done. If any feelings lasts longer than 90 seconds…you must be doing something to make them stay…you start to feel something, then you agree with whatever meaning you make out of the feeling then you feel it even more and on it goes…sometimes for a lifetime!
Yes, you do choose your feelings.
Now you may not like this or understand it…in fact I can hear the silver-tongued fearful ego voice in your head saying…”this is nuts, I don’t choose all my feelings, sometimes other people just make me feel stuff”.
No they don’t. No one can make you do anything you do not choose to do. You always have a choice even when you feel you do not. The truth about ‘I didn’t have a choice” is actually: “I did not like any of the other options so I chose the least painful/awful of what was available to me at the time”.
No matter what has happened in your life to date, the key to healing and restoring wholeness is how you deal with your feelings.
Who taught you how to feel your feelings?
Where did you learn how to respond to what you are feeling rather than react?
My guess is…no one did.
In fact, you have probably had no education or training in what feelings are, what they mean and how to use them as a resource for change rather than as a reason to stay wounded and suffering.
Consider this: How much of your life have you spent feeling that you are not good enough – not worth enough, or deserving enough or pretty enough or smart enough or successful enough or strong enough or brave enough or lucky enough or quick enough or calm enough or …just not enough?
Enough I say. Enough of feeling not ok, enough of doubting your own loving heart, enough of choosing the illusion of fear when only love is real. Enough of pretending to be who you are not when the truth about who you really are is magnificent.
Time to step-up, show up and start accepting the fundamental truth about yourself and what’s possible for you right now!
Step One: Choose to accept you are ok, lovable, valuable, powerful and unlimited
EVEN WHEN you don’t feel it. Let go of needing to figure it all out rationally and just accept that you are LOVE and let yourself BE.
Step Two: When you start to feel anything at all…pause for a moment, take a breath, get present in your own body, breathe, and let the feeling (energy-in-motion) move through you – remember 90 seconds and the energy will shift.
If you find yourself getting involved with your fearful thinking mind, tell yourself “this is just a feeling, it’s not a fact… just because I feel X doesn’t X is true, it’s just true that I am feeling X” and breathe…
Step Three: Choose how you want to feel, what you want to do next and how you want to
show up - then BE and DO what you have chosen. Revisit Step One often and Step Two as needed!
Make colorful reminder cards and stick them up where you will see them every day e.g.:
I am OK, I am lovable and I am valuable
LOVE is always the answer
BE Here Now
Feelings are not facts!
Practice allowing your feelings to move through you rather than suppressing, depressing or denying them. Avoid direct dumping of feelings on living things…go outside and tell the dirt how you feel… it doesn’t care.
Keep a journal/feelings diary and regularly dump them out on paper and leave them there.
Remember to pause regularly throughout the day and breathe….and BE here now and breathe…
Whatever your story, wherever you are now, whatever has been before…you are OK, you are perfect LOVE and you can experience this if you are willing to accept your magnificence and choose to live into WHO you are moment by moment, one loving breath at a time.
PS It’s really very simple…but don’t mistake simple for easy. Sometimes simple is the hardest to do and yet, when you accept, surrender your resistance and simply choose to accept LOVE rather than fear…well it starts to get pretty simple!
Dynamic. Passionate. Loving.
Recognized as an expert coach, facilitator and mentor, Lorna rigorously questions the way things are, and challenges you to think differently about everything. She will confront you with breathtaking truths that truly are life changing.
Give everything to your work
Give everything to your Soul
Live as nature intended
Love what you do
No matter what it is - at this moment
And then your heart will stay open
For goodness and health
Make no compromise
Listen to no doubt
Give everything to your work
Whatever that is at any moment in time
Give everything to your soul
Live as nature intended
Turn up for life
Regret is a terrible feeling. It leads to depressions and frustrations.
To overcome hurt one must deal with regret.
Regret is the root of doubt. If we regret a decision we've made in the past, we will have doubt that where we are in our business or personal life is on track.
To feel off track is toxic. Off track means the future isn't positive. The more off track we feel, the less we feel secure about the future. This is not healthy, in fact, insecurity about the future is exhausting.
Ultimately it all leads back to regret.
If we say we made a bad decision, we must automatically feel regret. And that's the beginning of a downhill slide.
To arrest the slide we need to find out why that past choice is good. Yes, it may have caused some discomfort, but it can't be all bad. In fact it must, according to universal law, be half good.
It's this "other half" that I help you find. Why are you where you are right now and what amazing outcome is it leading to? This is visionary thinking and it is vital thinking.
The greatest fight you will have in life is between you and your expectations. When life doesn't go as planned, you are really only dealing with what you expected to happen and what did happen. But say your expectations are wrong... what then?
We align people with nature. Nature's law creates realistic expectations. That means that what is actually happening and what we expected to happen are one in the same. Could you benefit from that.
What if false expectations actually drive your life and you are continually wrestling with work, relationships, career, financial and social/health issues because your expectations are false? Wouldn't it be a better way to live? In harmony with nature's law?
Stop the hurt means open your heart and this simply means line up your expectations with nature's law.
This is what we help you do in a business off-site or one on one coaching programme.Contact us here if you'd like more information
"Balance TIme in A Business Suit with Time in a Wet Suit - Nicola Speer"
100% of All confusion comes from working or living on low priorities. If you hear yourself ask what should or shouldn't I do, then you are absolutely conning yourself.
If you are conning yourself it means that you are buying into somebody else's value set. Should, is a word we use to either internally abuse ourselves or externally empower some body else.
If you read the Dalai Lama's book, Happiness, and you start to embrace the recommendations of the book then you might start to say, "I should do as the Dalai Lama says." Which, in simple terms is self abuse.
Why not do what you say? Aren't you already smart enough to know what is right and wrong for you? When we learn about life we start saying I should do this and I shouldn't do that. And I guess as a child this is really important otherwise we'll get into all sorts of trouble.
But at what time are you going to take the power back? I mean eventually you will have to say "I am sick and tired of hearing myself say I should do this and I should do that." On about the same day as you hear yourself say those words you will also hear yourself say, "I'm sick of people telling me that I should do this and I shouldn't do that.' ADVICE FROM OTHER PEOPLE ISN'T WORTH THE PAPER IT'S WRITTEN ON
In the Back on Track program you are encouraged to learn your values. When you know your values you will not be conning yourself. Instead you will say that every choice I make either supports or challenges my values. If it supports your higher values then it's a good choice. If it supports your lower values and then it's a bad choice. If it supports all your values then you are lying to yourself.
Do you get thinker's block when it comes to making decisions? Is there a conflict between what feels good and what, on paper might be good? Do you get overwhelmed with options and end up doing nothing? I hope this article helps.
1. Use the word more ... More often.
In the Back on Track coaching experience you learn nature's law, and in nature's law, more is best. More is the best word to help us make decisions because it takes a lot of emotion out of the process. Simply you ask will this choice give me: more wealth, more health, more family, more self awareness (inspiration), more business/career?
If the answer is no, the answer is no.
2. Use the word less ....less
In Back on Track Coaching you learn Nature's Law and in nature's law, less is only used so more can grow. So we might say, less distractions but its for more growth, or we might say, less illness but for more work we love. Less is used in nature only to create more.
3. Use this - does this evolve you toward your VIP?
A person without a VIP is like a ship without a rudder, sail, mast, hull, keel, wind and water. That thing will really get to have a great time because it really does just want to feel good, enjoy itself and stay out of rough water all the time. But the great joy of being in life gets stolen if we don't throw ourselves toward a purpose and vision. In Back on Track, you write down your VIP and you look at it every day, read it, hear it, love it.
Love is at the heart of Back on Track because your relationship, family and self- respect hinge on you living in tune with nature and nature planted a seed in you to live a happy fulfilled life. When you make decisions that are trying to be happy and fulfilled you usually go in the opposite direction to what will make you really happy and fulfilled. Happy and fulfilled comes from living "more" living your VIP and that path isn't the most comfortable or pleasure filled path.
I hope this helps and here are a few examples:
David asked me "should I marry her" I simply asked "does marrying her give you More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More Career?
Jennifer asked "should I leave my job and become a therapist because that is something I love" My answer was "prove to me that by leaving your job that in five years time you will have More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More career...and then I will give you your answer." Jennifer came back with a PowerPoint business plan she had done for herself which was a pure BS guess plan. A plan that nobody questioned for her. When she really did test the plan on a real document - her VIP showed that everything important in her life except her pleasure would go less if she proceeded on her all or nothing kamikaze therapist plan.
Nature Evolves things. She never extincts a specie, that's ridiculous. Nature evolves specie to be greater in consciousness less in number. So, are you in tune with nature in your decisions? Are you greater (more wealth, health, family, career) and less distracted by the decisions you make or the opposite?
Back on Track is a 30 day Personal and Professional coaching program with online content as well as daily coaching by phone. It promises more life, health, wealth, family at less cost and in less time than any other personal change program on earth... Aligned with nature? You bet!