When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world: 
as I grew older and wiser I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change my country, 
but it too seemed immovable. 
As I grew into my twilight years in one last desperate attempt 
I  settled for changing only my family, 
those closest to me. But alas they would have none of it! 
And now I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only changed myself first, then by example I might have changed my family. 
From then, by example, I might have changed my friends. 
From their aspirations and encouragement I 
would have then been able to better my country, 
and who knows, I might have even changed the 
world. 
Inscribed on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop 
at Westminster Abbey 

If you always do what you've always done, You'll always get what you've always got.

Changing things on the outside while remaining with the same beliefs, thinking and ideas on the inside, is like changing your clothes but leaving your undies on....

How much would you pay to cure a terminal disease if you had one? All your money?

How much would you pay to make sure your children knew you loved them? Much or nothing?

How much would you pay to feel superior to your friends, siblings and family? A lot?

Equate the cost of change against the cost of not changing and you'll start to get a value. We often undervalue the amount we'd spend on change because we undervalue the cost of not changing. Take my personal situation for instance:

When I was going through my divorce I stood on principle saying, "this amount is the right amount of money to settle for" with my soon to be ex-wife. I didn't build into that equation any amount that valued the cost of not changing. I valued the separation and money split based on what I perceived as the principle of settlement, rather than the value of change. I underestimated the cost of not changing.

Similarly when I was the proud owner of my first Management Consulting firm we we busy helping others change but didn't value the cost of not changing ourselves. We overspecialised and after only 3 years ran out of technology.