"Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." -- Lao Tzu
The true mark of the spirituality of a person is not how they feel nor how they act when times are good, this can be faked even with a pill. The true mark of an indidual's spirituality and integrity is what they do, how they react and how far they run when times are not good - this is the mark and those who love natures law know it well.
I'd like to share 10 good reasons why you might consider the tenacity and diligence involved in keeping your heart open in everyday life worth while.
1. It's leadership - There are no half hearted success stories.
There are more than 200,000 books listed on the web on the topic of leadership. My book, "Innerwealth, putting the heart and soul back into work and life" is one of a very small number of those books that drill down through the surface games of human tricks and motivational games to understand the real core of a leader... heart and soul.
2. It's intuitive - “The quieter you become, the more you can hear.”
Although it is possible to enter a temple and find solace, or do a meditation and find quiet, the real measure of our inner state is a stillness that travels with us through all the trials and challenges of life. An open heart is the root source of stillness. It is a dynamic of thankfulness, mixed with desirelessness. A complete contentment for what is, rather than what could be.
3. It's Unconditional Love - “It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.”
Romance comes to the heart but unconditional love sits there already. This state of unconditional love is most often seen in the affection and loyalty a pet has for an owner. The dog might be punished but its enthusiasm and generosity of spirit is relentless. This is the core of an Open heart and a great necessity in any sustainable relationship. “I'm not interested in being a "lover." I'm interested in only being love.”
4. It's Youth - "The heart surrenders everything to the moment. The mind judges and holds back.”
You will see the look on a person's face move between childish exhuberance and aged exhaustion. It's is not just about sleep or diet or age or workload... more, it's a sign of an open heart. The younger a person looks, the more open their heart. The enemy of an open heart is therefore worry, pragmatism and stress that causes the joy and enthusiasm for the gift of the day to be replaced by uncertainty, doubt and the ensuing fatigue.
5. It's Bulletproof - “Everything changes once we identify with being the witness to the story, instead of the actor in it.”
With an Open heart you will treat everyone you meet like God in drag. The spiritual journey is individual, highly personal. It can't be organized or regulated. It isn't true that everyone should follow one path. Listen to your own truth. And to hear it, you will need the previously mentioned stillness. You won't find your heart in a temple until you find the temple in your heart. So, the heart will close if it is left unattended, to keep it open simply remember that what you meet in another being is the projection of your own level of evolution. You can always evolve just a little more each day.
5 More Tomorrow.........
There are situations where the golden handcuffs are on. We are in jobs we don't love, maybe even dealing with people we don't like and yet, if we don't do it, we sink.
What do we do?
1. Create options
There is nothing worse than being in a bad place without a fall back option or two. This means, in confidence, applying for other jobs, saving some cash or thinking about starting your own business. If you do the latter, please do a detailed business plan or you are likely to fail.
2. Don't Blame
The most important element to avoid that can totlaly disempower you and make the whole thing worse is to blame the company, the boss or your job. You can, with skill, adapt to any job, role or position and find some peace of mind in it if you don't blame the work, In the book "Innerwealth, Putting The Heart and Soul Back into Business" there are untold exercises that can assist you in dealing with situations without blaming. That's the key here.
3. FInd your Vision..
No matter how bad things get, if you have a vision, inspiration and purpose that inspires you, then you can always link what you are doing to that vision and then it becomes inspiring. As an example. A client was in golden handcuffs in a job with an abusive and negative boss. They developed their VIP statement and linked the seven areas of their vision to what this job and the skills of dealing with the abusive boss was teaching them. In the end, they found it acceptable if not enjoyable to use the opportunity to learn.
It is wise to use skills we share in our Nature's Law off-sites to use every resource at your disposal to create a better environment for your work. This is an extensive and simple way to change your mindset even when the circumstances are not pleasant. There is a significant amount of writing on this web site to support this idea that environment can transform mindset fast.
Tilly Smith was ten years old.
Tilly, her little sister Holly, and her mum and dad, were all on holiday.
They’d gone to a sunny place called Maikhao Beach.
They got up early and walked along the beach in the sun.
As they were walking, Tilly noticed the tide had gone out.
A very, very long way out.
She also noticed that the water was frothy, just like a pint of beer.
She stopped dead.
This was exactly like the newsreel film her geography teacher had shown her back at school in Surrey.
Mr Kearney had shown her class some old black and white footage of Hawaii in 1946.
It was the only film anyone had ever seen of a tsunami.
In fact most people hadn’t even heard the word tsunami.
But Tilly was convinced that was happening right now.
She tried to explain to her mum what she thought was happening.
Her mum wasn’t convinced, obviously.
No one had heard of a tsunami.
No one on the beach, including the life guards, was taking any notice.
So this probably happened all the time.
How could a ten year old girl from Surrey know more than the people who lived and worked here?
Tilly started to yell at her dad.
She was positive this was the thing Mr Kearney had shown them two weeks before.
Her dad had a difficult choice.
Listen to his ten year old daughter, who was getting hysterical.
And maybe cause panic on the beach.
Or ignore it and just take his daughter back to the hotel until she calmed down.
But what if she was right?
All these families, all these children, would die and he’d be responsible.
For an Englishman, embarrassment is the worst thing of all.
But he decided he had to take a chance.
He told the security guards, who told the lifeguards.
The beach was cleared and everyone went back to the hotel and climbed to the third floor.
They didn’t have to wait long.
In less than a minute the first of three giant waves struck.
In fact giant waves struck beaches all over South East Asia that morning.
It was the Boxing Day, 2004.
In a few hours everyone in the world knew what a tsunami was.
Because that tsunami killed a quarter of a million people on beaches in thirteen different countries.
But there was one beach where no one died.
The beach Tilly Smith had been on.
That was the beach everyone left before the wave struck.
Because ten year old Tilly refused to shut up.
She wasn’t old enough to be silenced by crushing embarrassment.
She was still young enough to know she was right, and not allow herself to be quietened down.
Later, she was taken to the United Nations, where she was publicly congratulated by Bill Clinton.
Because Tilly saved the lives of over a hundred people.
Men women and children.
By being unreasonable.
By insisting on being heard.
Instead of wishing she’d spoken up after it was too late.
That’s something we could all do with learning.
Regret is worse than embarrassment.
Have you seen the growth rings of a tree? THe tree grows in cycles.
Between a no grow and grow zone, the rings, are called FRUSTA
and these are the root of FRUSTRATION
A place where the past looks better than the future
Have you experienced that?
It's really annoying because you can't go back but wish you could.
Well, BACK ON TRACK is designed to get you through those frusta in a minimum of time, days not years.
It saves you heart ache, back ache and head ache.
How often you do your daily exercises, RESOLVE< EVOVLE et
Is going to determine how long it takes to get through frusta.
My old yoga teacher and friend Sri K Pattabhi Jois used to say "Every day I teach yoga I get one year younger, but everyday I don't teach yoga I get ten years older" Obviously, given that he was still pretty fit at the age of 90, he taught allot of yoga. He was also, rarely tired,
Exhaustion and lost hope of the future go hand in hand. If I am walking to an event or to meet someone for dinner and I feel tired, it's because deep down at some pretty important level I can't link going to meet that person to my values. In simpler language I am going but there's some part of me doesn't really see the benefit of it.
Our energy systems are amazing. If we have one job to do there are always five ways to approach that job. Two will exhaust you, two will get you through the day and one will absolutely send you home with more energy than you came to work with.
Making love is the same. Sometimes after making love you feel like the world is just bright brilliant sunshine even if it's a rainy day, but other times you just want to curl up and get away from your partner, the world and life. Same love making two different head-spaces.
How we think, has a huge impact on how we feel. People spend allot of time telling you what to think and you may buy it or not. In Back on Track™ I spend allot of time coaching you to forget about what people tell you about what to think and focus on how you think
In this article, which, by the way, is a little lengthy and took longer to write than expected, I talk a bit about HOW to think, rather than what. I'm encouraging those people who find themselves tired at the end of the day to consider a re-engineering, re-invention of their dependency on short term emotional uppers. It's quite confronting. I hope you enjoy, and not enjoy it. (you'll see the humour in that comment as you read on)
Feeling thankful I hope - the whole of creation loves you - be humble to that and you will have calm, centred and balanced day - balance, centred - calm - no panic.
There is always a gift even in the worst storm - trust your inner child to guide you to the right choices and don't beat yourself up for the joyful moments of wisdom you have.
Balanced, centred and calm is your heart - Only your mind can punish and stress you because mind lives in fear - heart lives in love - love always wins.
Trust this alone - BCC - balanced mind, centred body, calm nerves - then and only then will you hear your indpiration speak - - and then trust your inner guidance to lead you (to love and abundance in all areas of life)
Really must our lives be so complex?
It is as simple as living from your heart daily. Dissolving problems instead of inflating them - becoming content with the worst case and therefore thankful for everything above that.
It is not the big achievements that create a great life - it is really the small things we do when we forget to say "I" and remember to say "we."
How many times today did you smile within at the good luck that is your life as it is and therefore see that your woes and problems are no excuse to block your love?