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Tilly Smith was ten years old.

Tilly, her little sister Holly, and her mum and dad, were all on holiday.

They’d gone to a sunny place called Maikhao Beach.

They got up early and walked along the beach in the sun.

As they were walking, Tilly noticed the tide had gone out.

A very, very long way out.

She also noticed that the water was frothy, just like a pint of beer.

She stopped dead.

This was exactly like the newsreel film her geography teacher had shown her back at school in Surrey.

Mr Kearney had shown her class some old black and white footage of Hawaii in 1946.

It was the only film anyone had ever seen of a tsunami.

In fact most people hadn’t even heard the word tsunami.

But Tilly was convinced that was happening right now.

She tried to explain to her mum what she thought was happening.

Her mum wasn’t convinced, obviously.

No one had heard of a tsunami.

No one on the beach, including the life guards, was taking any notice.

So this probably happened all the time.

How could a ten year old girl from Surrey know more than the people who lived and worked here?

Tilly started to yell at her dad.

She was positive this was the thing Mr Kearney had shown them two weeks before.

Her dad had a difficult choice.

Listen to his ten year old daughter, who was getting hysterical.

And maybe cause panic on the beach.

Or ignore it and just take his daughter back to the hotel until she calmed down.

But what if she was right?

All these families, all these children, would die and he’d be responsible.

For an Englishman, embarrassment is the worst thing of all.

But he decided he had to take a chance.

He told the security guards, who told the lifeguards.

The beach was cleared and everyone went back to the hotel and climbed to the third floor.

And waited.

They didn’t have to wait long.

In less than a minute the first of three giant waves struck.

In fact giant waves struck beaches all over South East Asia that morning.

It was the Boxing Day, 2004.

In a few hours everyone in the world knew what a tsunami was.

Because that tsunami killed a quarter of a million people on beaches in thirteen different countries.

But there was one beach where no one died.

Maikhao Beach.

The beach Tilly Smith had been on.

That was the beach everyone left before the wave struck.

Because ten year old Tilly refused to shut up.

She wasn’t old enough to be silenced by crushing embarrassment.

She was still young enough to know she was right, and not allow herself to be quietened down.

Later, she was taken to the United Nations, where she was publicly congratulated by Bill Clinton.

Because Tilly saved the lives of over a hundred people.

Men women and children.

By being unreasonable.

By insisting on being heard.

Instead of wishing she’d spoken up after it was too late.

That’s something we could all do with learning.

Regret is worse than embarrassment.

Article From Daily OM
Raising Our Consciousness
Stepping out from Where We Were
by Madisyn Taylor 


We cannot gain a sense of power in our lives while identifying ourselves as a victim.
Albert Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it. We must learn to see the world anew.” A Nobel Prize winner, Albert Einstein’s scientific theories transformed the world’s understanding of the universe and its workings, so we can believe that these words come from his personal experience and helped him to explore both science and life itself. He offered us an example of what can be learned by looking deeply into nature to reach a deeper understanding of all life and by following our ideas to their logical conclusions in our minds before acting upon them in the world. 

When we apply this quote to our lives, we can see that we cannot create abundance by staying in a consciousness of poverty, nor can we gain a sense of power in our lives while identifying ourselves as a victim. Situations begun from anger or fear can have little chance of reaching a state of peace and trust unless someone involved can conceive of that possibility and act upon it. We need to find ways to step outside of our limited understanding in order to seek a bigger picture. One way to do this is to shift our perspective to see the situation from another’s point of view and ideally the perspective of all others involved. Even if we can’t truly know another’s motivations, by imagining what they might be, we open ourselves up to numerous possibilities and an expanded vision. This alone can shift our feelings of anger to compassion and the desire for a positive solution for all involved. 

Once we have opened our mind to greater possibilities, we can connect to our higher self for inspired solutions. From the peace at our center, we gain distance from our emotions to connect to intuitive wisdom that offers us understanding of the underlying causes and the inspiration needed to guide our steps in a new direction. Albert Einstein showed us the impact that can be made when we raise our consciousness and allow ourselves to imagine the possibilities.

Letting go of poor motive. 

Determination, commitment and dedication to your work are essential but if there is any anger, greed or hate directed at your work colleagues, yourself or even the job itself, it will sabotage your efforts. 

Anger, greed and hate are behind allot of Motivation, and they are the three motives that must be left behind when moving to Inspiration.

There is no peace in a heart that has those three emotions and people will not be willingly led by a turbulent heart. So, to inspire confidence and trust it is your duty to yourself to let go of those three dark motives. 

It is also essential to remember that hate, anger and greed does not have to come from work to infect your leadership with negativity. If you are angry at home, or about the world at large or even toward yourself for anything, it will translate into anger at work. You may not feel it, but it is there and will block your career or business success. 

Finding peace in nature and having some personal coaching can, from time to time help clear any backlog of anger, hate or greed. Time in nature is a great antidote to tensions built up over the past. 

The skills I use for this step are: 

• Inner calm
• Energy of the Heart 
• Clearing Skills 

CLEARING SKILLS, INNER CALM, ENERGY OF THE HEART

Anger accumulates and so, if you bring anger home from work you are likely to sabotage your family life. 

To know how to clear anger, it's necessary to understand why anger exists.

Anger, is nature's overdrive gear. If you are faced with danger or a desperate situation, anger triggers all the essential chemicals in your body and mind to get you out of trouble. Those chemicals are highly oxidating, toxic to the body and require careful management, otherwise they will result in illness, injury or exhaustion.

So, if you are feeling more tired than normal, more stressed, more grumpy, unclear, uncertain, confused, or even not sexy, the root of all that is 99% probability of being anger.

Anger is an emotion and emotion is caused by lopsided thinking. So, the more extreme imbalanced thinking we have, the more angry we become.

The daily emotional shower is such a fantastic life changing process, I believe it is one of the most important tools of this whole Back on Track™ Programme.


Here is a copy of the Emotional Shower Anger Management Form: Download PDF

Nature is a special place, where dreams meet reality and reality can transfigure itself into a sign or symbol, or a pure expression of culture. Nature as Giorgio Armani observes it is eternal, infinite and powerful, seemingly simple yet always producing different paths through which to reconcile desire and fantasy. Emotions that change the meaning of everyday life and transform it.

In 1984, my business life went to the dogs, and took me with it. If there were not signs that I needed to create change in my life before that, there were certainly signs after it. This course, is the result of a quest to explore better, more authentic ways of being in life and at work. An awakened way of being in the world.

Actually, there were signs before the journey began to this new awakened way of work and life. I blamed the world for my stresses, I had anger that I couldn’t process and I was achieving great states of mediocrity in my work
and relationship. Step by step, through trail and error, and taking some massive diversions, I found better ways to be happier, do better and achieve it faster. This is the foundation of this training program.

Ultimately, this Path is about more choices. Better choices in how a person deals with everyday work, life and relationship. It’s about balance and personal strength, a realisation that, with certain choices we can find inner calm, be resilient to the challenges that come our way and give more of ourself.

This is not the only Path to awakened work life. But, I think you will find it is the most natural, direct, rhetoric free and shortest Path. I’m an Aussie, we believe in Quiet Achievement. That’s the essence you’ll find in this work. 

Free will is a powerful topic to understand. It impacts your business, career, health, relationship, social life and mental health.

Do you have free will?

The answer is yes and no….

Yes, because nobody can tell you what to think about… you want to think about oranges or apples, you are free to do so.

No, because it, at the end of the day, you want to create a business, or a family, thinking about oranges and apples is not going to cause that result.

So, there are short term and long term considerations.

I once tried to build up a small company I owned in partnership with another person. We both wanted to build a successful business, but we disagreed on how. So, while I focussed on clients, my partner focussed on profit.

In the short term the benefits were obvious, but in the long term, that split in focus causes us to lower the value of the business.

The universal laws of nature focus your business on the result you want.

If your business focus is building short term profit the universal laws direct you to how. If it is long term value and sale price, the universal laws can focus you on that too.

The most important thing to be aware of is that if you want a particular outcome, it is wise to focus on the particular topic that will cause it.

If you want your partner to be horny and excited to see you then it's wise to understand what it's going to take to cause it.

These are the universal laws, simple and powerful. They effect the cause of results and they don't get caught up in emotion or political rhetoric.

Therefore, I believe they are a great asset.

From the Heart of Chris

Do you get thinker's block when it comes to making decisions? Is there a conflict between what feels good and what, on paper might be good? Do you get overwhelmed with options and end up doing nothing? I hope this article helps.

1. Use the word more ... More often.

In the Back on Track coaching experience you learn nature's law, and in nature's law, more is best. More is the best word to help us make decisions because it takes a lot of emotion out of the process. Simply you ask will this choice give me: more wealth, more health, more family, more self awareness (inspiration), more business/career?

If the answer is no, the answer is no.

2. Use the word less ....less

In Back on Track Coaching you learn Nature's Law and in nature's law, less is only used so more can grow. So we might say, less distractions but its for more growth, or we might say, less illness but for more work we love. Less is used in nature only to create more.

3. Use this - does this evolve you toward your VIP?

A person without a VIP is like a ship without a rudder, sail, mast, hull, keel, wind and water. That thing will really get to have a great time because it really does just want to feel good, enjoy itself and stay out of rough water all the time. But the great joy of being in life gets stolen if we don't throw ourselves toward a purpose and vision. In Back on Track, you write down your VIP and you look at it every day, read it, hear it, love it.

Love is at the heart of Back on Track because your relationship, family and self- respect hinge on you living in tune with nature and nature planted a seed in you to live a happy fulfilled life. When you make decisions that are trying to be happy and fulfilled you usually go in the opposite direction to what will make you really happy and fulfilled. Happy and fulfilled comes from living "more" living your VIP and that path isn't the most comfortable or pleasure filled path.

I hope this helps and here are a few examples:

David asked me "should I marry her" I simply asked "does marrying her give you More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More Career?

Jennifer asked "should I leave my job and become a therapist because that is something I love" My answer was "prove to me that by leaving your job that in five years time you will have More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More career...and then I will give you your answer." Jennifer came back with a PowerPoint business plan she had done for herself which was a pure BS guess plan. A plan that nobody questioned for her. When she really did test the plan on a real document - her VIP showed that everything important in her life except her pleasure would go less if she proceeded on her all or nothing kamikaze therapist plan.

Nature Evolves things. She never extincts a specie, that's ridiculous. Nature evolves specie to be greater in consciousness less in number. So, are you in tune with nature in your decisions? Are you greater (more wealth, health, family, career) and less distracted by the decisions you make or the opposite?

Back on Track is a 30 day Personal and Professional coaching program with online content as well as daily coaching by phone. It promises more life, health, wealth, family at less cost and in less time than any other personal change program on earth... Aligned with nature? You bet!

Really must our lives be so complex?

It is as simple as living from your heart daily. Dissolving problems instead of inflating them - becoming content with the worst case and therefore thankful for everything above that.

It is not the big achievements that create a great life - it is really the small things we do when we forget to say "I" and remember to say "we."

How many times today did you smile within at the good luck that is your life as it is and therefore see that your woes and problems are no excuse to block your love?

When I was 15 I thought I was wise. Really, my school teacher tried to give me advice about riding my bike too fast in traffic and I felt like I was being murdered, choked to death by conservative pragmatism.

Not long after this, I rode full speed into the back of a car flying face first into the rear quarter panel, slicing my mouth open creating a nose to chin vagina where my mouth used to be and losing all my beautiful front teeth down my throat.

I'm glad I didn't listen to that teachers advice because - in the fifty odd visits to the butcher they called my dentist, I learned about life.

When I was 18 I met my 17 year old girlfriend who was hitch hiking down the surf beach. Sadly I was driving and my two mates cottoned onto the two girls. Three months later they broke up and I declared my love for her. She moved in to my deralict home. My father have me advice, "don't do it" he said, and I felt like I was being choked again but that aweful adult pragmatism that people who have lost hope of dreams coming true and the magic of life being gone, share as love.

Fifteen years later I stood on a cliff, ready to take my life after that marriage ended in disaster. But I'm so glad I didn't listen to that advice, three amazing children, lots of experiences, caring, sharing, contributing to the world. In other words "living".

I've never learnt anything from a book. Nothing worthy of life. I've learned from experiences and I've learned from accidents. I've learned from other people, their experiences and their mistakes, but rarely from what they wrote, mostly from what I observed.

I think for me that the magic of life comes from living it. All the pragmatism is crucial, but it adds up to zero, balance. Life is not a dress rehearsal - all the tapes and books and seminars may heal hurt, but that is not life. Life is an exploration, an experience and it is meant to be lived with love, not trying to get it right.

It's probably my current wisdom that in ten years time will sound like the crazy mutterings of a guy justifying his reality. I'll probably ride this bike into another car and learn and love and learn and love again.

In amongst all this there are some advices that have stood the test of time that I try not to choke my friends, family and clients with - like "don't f..k with nature's universal laws. I think it's safe to say that they still leave allot of space for experimentation and exploration while preventing our journey hurting others. And that's the only thing I would change if I lived the trip all over again.

I believe in nature and therefore I believe in love.

I believed in Buddhism too, but then I read the Buddha's quote "teach then the illusion until they are ready for truth" and I realised that the mission of Buddism is to cause peace, not inspire Vision, Inspiration or Purpose - Ie The Future..

Likewise I believed in other religious ideals until I realised that all religious teaching argues with nature's laws and I had to ask myself - "which idea would win in a battle, nature or others?" You know my answer.

I came to realise that we live on a ladder. That in fact all ideals have their place on the ladder. The more desperate we are, (read here stressed and frightened) the lower on the ladder we are, the lower the ideals we need.

So, when I do vision inspiration and purpose with clients, ideals matter. Sometimes people want a bigger and better future but not change their ideals... That can't work can it? Our perceptions of the past are based on our ideals about the past and our perceptions about the past create our future.

It's not really a conflict at all. Our religious ideals are not in conflict with our vision, inspiration and purpose unless they prevent us valuing ourselves or others. If we are stuck, devaluing ourselves because we infatuate our ego mistakenly thinking that it's us, then that is what can determine whether the future is different to the past.

Do you believe you can have love in your life without pain? If so, that's a conflict between your ideals and nature. Do you believe you can be inspired all day every day if so - that's a contradiction between your ideals and nature. Do you believe your vision comes from desires and ambitions? If so, that's a contradiction between your ideals and nature.

Do you believe somebody hurt you more than you hurt yourself, or even hurt you without helping you? If so, that's another contradiction between your ideals and nature.

Do you believe that the universe gives a shit about whether you live on purpose or simply snort cocaine all day - if so, that's another contradiction between your ideals and nature.

Do you think you are not perfect right now and that if you shift something you will become more loveable to your partner, friends, creator? If so, that's another contradiction between your ideals and nature.

Do you believe that by meeting the perfect love of your life - your life will change or that the purpose of a relationship is happiness? If so, that's another contradiction between your ideals and nature.

Doing your Vision, Inspiration and Purpose you don't have to change your religious beliefs... No, not at all. You simply need to align your spiritual beliefs, those beautiful ideals that determine the value of time in your life, the value of love in your life, the value of you in your life, in order to ensure that the foundations that created the past, evolve enough, to create a new future.

If you want a global business - you need a universal perspective... Nature's laws are exactly that.

May your vision be engaging, your inspiration be powerful and your purpose create enthusiasm.

Love nature - love life

Chris


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http://www.chriswalker.com.au
Global expert and speaker on work life balance, intuitive guide on VIP (vision, inspiration and purpose) and the originator of distilled application of Nature's Universal Laws.