It's rare to find a couple who are equally inspired. In most cases, one is inspired and the other wishes they were, or, wishes you weren't.
So, it's a common problem. What do you do when you are inspired and your partner isn't?
So, it's a common problem. What do you do when you are inspired and your partner isn't?
1. Don't Compromise....
Being inspired has three core components: VIP... Vision, Inspiration and Purpose... if you compromise one of those in order to placate your partner's discomfort, you'll resent them, eventually.
2. Be Adaptive
Adaptation is a key in living your VIP. It isn't going to go the way you expect. Nature never grows in straight lines, so, your VIP will be continually adjusting, evolving, changing to suit the environment. Don't compromise your VIP but you can adapt to circumstance and environment.
3. Stay Focussed
It's hellishly easy to get side tracked in trying to adapt to the needs of an uninspired partner. Sometimes you'll feel like pulling your hair out. Getting over this attachment to pleasing people while remaining thankful and accepting their version of reality is a great learning experience. Balanced, Centred and Calm ... Patience.
4. Sell the Sizzle not the Sausage
Most often a partner who is not inspired will put the brakes on their own life and try to put the brakes on their partner's life because they see the inspiration but don't feel any benefit. It feels isolating to have an inspired partner. So, give them benefit for your inspiration: be more loving, generous, listen, understand, tolerant, give them rule of the stuff that they find important, be more attentive and link all this to you being more inspired... as it is.
5. Be Prepared to Let It Go
If your partner's approval is more important than your VIP ... (Vision, Inspiration and Purpose) then, it's wise for you to drop the VIP pretence and focus on saving your relationship. However, if you've come the full circle through a few compromised relationships and paid the price for giving up your VIP ... then like me you'll know that there's nothing worse as demonstrated in Walker's law of lesser passers... please people and piss yourself off or please yourself and piss others off. Your choice is simple.
Awareness is the key... you just have to admit sometimes that you partner's problems are caused by your partner's choices and two people making bad choices doesn't make two happy ones....
Being inspired has three core components: VIP... Vision, Inspiration and Purpose... if you compromise one of those in order to placate your partner's discomfort, you'll resent them, eventually.
2. Be Adaptive
Adaptation is a key in living your VIP. It isn't going to go the way you expect. Nature never grows in straight lines, so, your VIP will be continually adjusting, evolving, changing to suit the environment. Don't compromise your VIP but you can adapt to circumstance and environment.
3. Stay Focussed
It's hellishly easy to get side tracked in trying to adapt to the needs of an uninspired partner. Sometimes you'll feel like pulling your hair out. Getting over this attachment to pleasing people while remaining thankful and accepting their version of reality is a great learning experience. Balanced, Centred and Calm ... Patience.
4. Sell the Sizzle not the Sausage
Most often a partner who is not inspired will put the brakes on their own life and try to put the brakes on their partner's life because they see the inspiration but don't feel any benefit. It feels isolating to have an inspired partner. So, give them benefit for your inspiration: be more loving, generous, listen, understand, tolerant, give them rule of the stuff that they find important, be more attentive and link all this to you being more inspired... as it is.
5. Be Prepared to Let It Go
If your partner's approval is more important than your VIP ... (Vision, Inspiration and Purpose) then, it's wise for you to drop the VIP pretence and focus on saving your relationship. However, if you've come the full circle through a few compromised relationships and paid the price for giving up your VIP ... then like me you'll know that there's nothing worse as demonstrated in Walker's law of lesser passers... please people and piss yourself off or please yourself and piss others off. Your choice is simple.
Awareness is the key... you just have to admit sometimes that you partner's problems are caused by your partner's choices and two people making bad choices doesn't make two happy ones....
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