My first wife said, "I'm taking the children (3) and getting as far away from you as possible. I took it personally and wanted to die from shame and failure. Now I thank her. What changed? Did the event change? No. Did she change (she is still committed to her original statement 30 years later) No. So, what changed? My mind changed and this is the only human freedom. To think whatever you choose. Reality does not exist - your thoughts create your reality. Choose them wisely because your thoughts create your destiny.